Foster Parent Admits Creating Fake Accounts to Monitor Bio Parents for Safety
"This is not something that you should do. I write about it in my book, like, it's totally shady and it's not something you should do. And I'm like, whatever. I created catfish accounts, which is like a social media profile that's not real. And I knew what was going on with the bio parents' actual life to keep my kids safe. Caden's case was bleak. Like, it was like, I'm gonna do this because if I don't, like, he's dead."
About this episode
In this deeply disturbing episode of the Shawn Ryan Show, host Shawn Ryan interviews actress and foster care advocate Jen Lilly, who exposes systemic failures enabling widespread child abuse, trafficking, and exploitation within America's foster care system. Lilly, who built a successful Hollywood career before becoming a foster parent and adoptive mother, delivers explosive revelations about legal loopholes and bureaucratic failures that have created what she calls a 'pipeline for human trafficking.' Most shocking is her disclosure that no federal or state law prohibits adopting foster children for the explicit purpose of sexual exploitation—a loophole Congress is reportedly aware of but has not addressed. She details how traffickers can legally adopt children, sign them into marriages in 33 states, and avoid statutory rape charges in 19 states through marriage licenses. Lilly also reveals that between 100,000 and 300,000 children exist in 'hidden foster care,' removed from abusive homes but never officially entered into the system with no social workers monitoring their welfare—a crisis created by the 2018 Family First Prevention Services Act that appears to have solved foster care problems by moving children off the books. She exposes how 63 children disappear from foster care daily with tens of thousands more going unreported, how financial incentive structures reward keeping children medicated and failing in school, and how children are being warehoused in detention centers in 13 states due to lack of available homes. Throughout the conversation, Lilly shares personal experiences from her own foster parenting journey, including adopting two sons from the system, and issues an urgent call for churches and good people to become licensed foster parents, arguing that if just one family from every four churches in America fostered, the crisis would be solved.
Key takeaways
- No federal or state law criminalizes adopting foster children for sexual exploitation despite Congress being aware of the loophole.
- Between 100,000 and 300,000 children exist in hidden foster care with no court cases opened and no social workers monitoring them.
- Traffickers can legally adopt foster children in 33 states and sign them into marriages with 19 states shielding statutory rape through marriage licenses.
- At least 63 foster children disappear daily with Health and Human Services estimating tens of thousands more go unreported nationwide.
- A foster parent exposed earning $28,000 monthly by intentionally failing children in school and pushing medication to increase tiered payment rates.
- The 2018 Family First Prevention Services Act created bureaucratic red tape that eliminated 36,000 foster homes and drove 170,000 children off official records.
- Children in 13 states are being placed in detention centers despite having no criminal record due to severe shortage of foster homes.
- Kids who age out of foster care have 46% homeless rate by age 26 and 17 to 20% of prison inmates came from foster care.
- Only 3% of children who age out obtain college degrees by 26 with just 50% graduating high school or obtaining GED.
- If one family from every four churches in America fostered there would be more than enough homes for every child needing placement.