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Pink Claims Self-Criticism Is Counterproductive and Self-Compassion Improves Performance

The Mel Robbins Podcast · What Makes a Good Life? This Study on 26,000 Regrets Will Guide You for the Rest of Your Life · May 25, 2026
Pink Claims Self-Criticism Is Counterproductive and Self-Compassion Improves Performance
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The Mel Robbins Podcast
What Makes a Good Life? This Study on 26,000 Regrets Will Guide You for the Rest of Your Life
"The way we talk to ourselves in the face of screw-ups is brutal and cruel. If you were to sort of implant in my head and like broadcast my self-talk out there, if I would do that in a workplace, HR would be intervening immediately. That kind of horrifying, lacerating self-criticism doesn't improve your performance. What does improve your performance is self-compassion."
Daniel Pink presented research showing that harsh internal self-talk—common when people experience regret—actually hinders performance and recovery. He argues that the internal dialogue most people use on themselves would be considered workplace harassment if directed at others. Evidence shows treating oneself with the same compassion extended to friends leads to better outcomes and faster learning from mistakes.
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