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Therapist prays to outlive wife so he can see her home to eternity

Pints with Aquinas · You Don't Understand Marriage Conflict · July 11, 2026
Therapist prays to outlive wife so he can see her home to eternity
Pints with Aquinas
Pints with Aquinas
You Don't Understand Marriage Conflict
"I would die for you, but I don't know if I can live this life without you. Can I have the privilege of seeing my wife home so that I get to help her make that transition to eternity and then live with the consequences."
Dan Allender describes how his wife Becky challenged him to pray that he outlives her so he can shepherd her transition to death, despite his terror of living without her. He contrasts the relative ease of dying for a spouse with the harder sacrifice of outliving them. The shift has transformed his prayer life and understanding of marital commitment beyond romantic sentiment.
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