Relationships & Family
Researcher Says Celebrating Good News Predicts Relationship Duration Better Than Supporting Bad News
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Why You Don’t Feel Loved (even when you are) - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115
"How do you respond to good versus bad news in a relationship? It turns out how we respond to good news is a better predictor of relationship duration than how we respond to bad news. Because it's not easy, right? You got a job offer in New York. I mean, it could be threatening."
Lyubomirsky cited research showing that how partners respond to good news—through genuine celebration and enthusiasm—is a stronger predictor of relationship longevity than how they respond to bad news. The finding challenges conventional assumptions that being supportive during hardship is the most important relationship skill, revealing that enthusiasm for a partner's wins is more difficult and more revealing of relationship health.
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