Relationships & Family
First Three Minutes of Argument Predict Entire Future of Relationship
The Mel Robbins Podcast
The #1 Relationship Researchers in the World: 50 Years of Marriage & Love Advice in One Conversation
What was said
"What if we lop off the data from the last 3 minutes and we only have 12 minutes? What's the prediction like with only 12 minutes of data? And it was just fine. She got down to the first 3 minutes. And we were still predicting the future of the relationship very accurately by just looking at that first 3 minutes."
Research by Dr. Sybil Carreer in the Gottman lab discovered that analyzing only the first 3 minutes of a 15-minute conflict conversation predicted relationship outcomes with the same accuracy as the full interaction. Couples who later divorced started conversations fundamentally differently than those who stayed happily married.
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- Programme
- The Mel Robbins Podcast
- Episode
- The #1 Relationship Researchers in the World: 50 Years of Marriage & Love Advice in One Conversation
- Clip time
- 15:23
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The Mel Robbins Podcast