Psychology
Most Emotional Issues Come From Uncertainty About Future Feelings, Not Events
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How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110
"The majority of our issues, emotional anyway issues, come from uncertainty. What's going to happen to me? What are people going to think of me? What am I going to think of myself? But more importantly, how am I going to feel if this person breaks up with me, if I don't get this job, if someone that I love dies. Most of it is how am I going to feel on the other end of that?"
Quinn and Walter proposes that emotional distress stems not from fear of external events but from uncertainty about one's ability to handle the feelings those events produce. She argues self-trust—confidence in supporting yourself through any emotion—is the only strategy that addresses all situations.
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