Relationships & Family
Ram Dass Reveals Near Enemy of Love Is Attachment Not Hatred
Duncan Trussell Family Hour
754: RamDev
What was said
"Think about falling in love with somebody. How much of it is pure love and how much of it is, 'I'll love you 5 if you love me 5, but if you only love me 4, I'm only going to love you 3.' I'm loving you because I don't want to be alone and I want to have sex and I want my friends to think I'm somebody capable of being in a relationship."
Ram Dass introduced the Buddhist concept of near and far enemies, explaining that the near enemy of love—which masquerades as love—is actually attachment, not hatred. He illustrated how most romantic relationships contain transactional elements disguised as pure affection, requiring practitioners to disentangle love from self-interest through grounded, embodied practice.
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- Programme
- Duncan Trussell Family Hour
- Episode
- 754: RamDev
- Clip time
- 48:21
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