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Why You’re Obsessed, Anxious, & Still Single - Mercedes Coffman - #1092

Modern Wisdom · 2 May 2026 · 3 Egleze moments
Why You’re Obsessed, Anxious, & Still Single - Mercedes Coffman - #1092 ▶

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Relationships & FamilyHealth, Longevity & BiohackingPsychology

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2 May 2026
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Relationships & Family

Therapist: Being With Emotionally Avoidant Partner Can Cause Physical Illness

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Your nervous system now is spiking in cortisol, which is your stress hormones. A lot of the times this changes people because they are experiencing fatigue, mood disorders, sleep disturbances, appetite disorders.

Expert warns that relationships with emotionally unavailable people can severely impact physical health through nervous system dysregulation, causing symptoms ranging from sleep disturbances to appetite disorders as partners experience cycles of attachment and withdrawal.

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Relationships & Family

Two-Thirds of People Experience Relationship Self-Sabotage, Study Finds

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I saw some research suggesting that relationship self-sabotage affects about 63% of people at some point. 2021 study published in the Journal of Couples and Relationship Therapy based on interviews with about 700 people found that the most common drivers were fear of getting hurt, fear of rejection, and low self-esteem.

New research reveals the majority of people engage in relationship self-sabotage driven by fear of rejection and low self-esteem, with modern ghosting culture normalizing behavior that perpetuates these fears and creates a cycle of avoidance.

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Psychology

Dating Expert Reveals Why 'Butterflies' Are Actually a Red Flag

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We started calling it butterflies. And that's so pretty and cute. Oh, he gives me butterflies. No, he activates your nervous system. He's not good for you. Obsession is rarely ever about the other person. Obsession is about nervous system activation.

Therapist challenges romantic notion of 'butterflies,' explaining that early dating obsession typically signals nervous system dysregulation caused by uncertainty and inconsistency rather than genuine compatibility, urging daters to recognize this as a warning sign.

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